A paramour is the unmarried lover of a noble.
In Dorne, lords and ladies can have paramours, chosen for love and lust rather than for breeding or alliance. Dornishmen are not greatly concerned if a bastard is born to a paramour. Dorne gives a degree of social status to paramours, despite the "unchaste" nature of the relationship. Outside of Dorne, a Dornish paramour's status is less certain. They may be afforded the esteem granted in their homeland by the diplomatic-minded, or they may receive treatment ranging from slight social disdain to moral condemnation.
That same varying treatment also applies to paramours of non-Dornish nobles, even the mistresses of kings. A paramour can be of the same sex as their lover. Each partner in a marriage can have their own paramour, though it depends on the rank of the partners.
It was a closely held secret that Prince Lewyn Martell kept a paramour despite the Kingsguard oaths of chastity. Ser Barristan Selmy and his other sworn brothers were aware of this, but kept his secret.
A Storm of Swords
A degree of social deference is given to Ellaria Sand by virtue of her relationship with Prince Oberyn Martell. While esteemed as a high-ranking woman by the Dornishmen, in King's Landing her presence at the high table at the royal wedding of King Joffrey I Baratheon and Margaery Tyrell would be taken as an insult by the noblewomen seated near her. Ellaria is instead placed at a place of honor near the dais. Olenna Redwyne refers to her as a "whore".
Some known paramours
- Mysaria, to Prince Daemon Targaryen
- Ser Harwin Strong, to Princess Rhaenyra Targaryen (allegedly)
- Unnamed paramour, to King Aegon II Targaryen
- Sylvenna Sand, to Essie
- The nine mistresses of King Aegon IV Targaryen
- Shiera Seastar, to Lord Brynden Rivers
- Several unnamed paramours, to King Aerys II Targaryen
- Unnamed paramour, to Prince Lewyn Martell
- Unnamed draper's wife in King's Landing, to Ser Preston Greenfield
- Unnamed paramour, to Lord Edgar Yronwood
- Ellaria Sand, to Prince Oberyn Martell
- Daario Naharis, to Queen Daenerys Targaryen
|“||And this is Ellaria Sand, mine own paramour.||”|
|“||Prince Lewyn was my Sworn Brother. In those days there were few secrets amongst the Kingsguard. I know he kept a paramour. He did not feel there was any shame in that.||”|
- ↑ 1.0 1.1 The World of Ice & Fire, Dorne: Queer Customs of the South.
- ↑ 2.0 2.1 2.2 2.3 2.4 2.5 A Storm of Swords, Chapter 38, Tyrion V.
- ↑ The World of Ice & Fire, The Targaryen Kings: Aegon IV.
- ↑ So Spake Martin: ConJose (SAN JOSE, CA; AUGUST 29-SEPTEMBER 2) (August 29, 2002)
- ↑ A Feast for Crows, Chapter 45, Samwell V.
- ↑ 6.0 6.1 6.2 A Feast for Crows, Chapter 13, The Soiled Knight.
- ↑ 7.0 7.1 7.2 A Dance with Dragons, Chapter 59, The Discarded Knight.
- ↑ A Storm of Swords, Chapter 53, Tyrion VI.
- ↑ The Rogue Prince.
- ↑ 10.0 10.1 The World of Ice & Fire, The Targaryen Kings: Viserys I.
- ↑ The Princess and the Queen.
- ↑ The World of Ice & Fire, The Free Cities: Braavos.
- ↑ The Sworn Sword.
- ↑ The World of Ice & Fire, The Targaryen Kings: Aerys I.
- ↑ The World of Ice & Fire, The Targaryen Kings: Aerys II.